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Life after baby with Hubby? Or Wifey?

pempempempem
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So my hub and I have been talking about wanting kids ever since we got married ha!  We got married very young (8 years ago), finished up college and grad/law school together, and now we've both been working for a few years.  I'm 28, he's 29.

Once we started working, we had a "5 year plan" but now we're cutting that short by one year and TTC this summer.  It was sudden, and I wondered if it was a rushed decision, but it's been a good 3 months, and we strongly believe it's the right time.  The thing is, we have like too much fun together, truly he is my best friend. We share similar interests in almost everything.  We travel so much all the time. 

I'm super excited, but also very terrified of having children. I'll miss our current freedom and fun. But I get so emo when I think of having a child with him, it makes me so happy.

I wanted to ask, what was your relationship like after having a baby?  Do you still do things together?
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  • Joy2611Joy2611
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    You got married at 8?!  ;)
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    oh my no! 8 years ago ;)
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    Edited! just in case lol
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  • I can't take anyone serious who uses wifey.
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  • pempempempem
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    Yeah I can see that. But do you miss just being you and husband?
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    pempem said:
    I did overreact. 

    I have low tolerance for unsolicited, mean-spirited comments though.

    See ya. I'll take myself to a less stuck-up site.
    Overreacting again. That's cool. We don't need that much drama here.

     

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  • We have a different kind of fun now but we look at eachother in amazement when we see our LO and how wonderful he is, we couldn't imagine things any different.  It's a "new" normal :)
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  • kdm06ckdm06c
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    Its a little different for us because my H travels for work a good bit. When he is home we try to do stuff as a family so we haven't been on a date in almost 3yrs. BUT, our relationship is stronger than ever, we have us time when the boys go to bed, and we still have a good sex life. It is definitely different than before kids but I love it. 
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  • Of course it changes the relationship! But that's not always a bad thing. It brought us closer together in some ways, but separated us in other ways. Just make sure you're on the same page before you have kids. And learn to not get upset so easily haha! Kids will push every button you have and you'll feel awful if you ever lose your temper towards your LO. 

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  • I can't take anyone serious who uses wifey.
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  • It changes things.  There are days where I wish we could just snuggle up and not worry about interruptions for a few hours.  But, at least for us, we love having kids even more than we loved being able to travel at the drop of a hat.  AND we are traveling internationally with our toddler this year (DH has itchy feet, as it were.  I know it's not the sanest.)
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  • Things have absolutely changed since we had DD. Our relationship is really struggling right now. We have our good days and our bad. Our issue right now is that we don't get enough time together.

    Our schedules are completely off. I work 9-5, wake up with the baby and go to bed shortly after her. He works 2-10 and sleeps in as long as possible and stays up til 4 in the morning

    It's rough, but we're working on it. Time as a couple is so important and we are really struggling to find the time right now as we don't even have the same days off. Works great for watching DD..not so great for our relationship.
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    We have a blast together still.  We have weekly date nights, solo vacations each year and family vacations.  We enjoy our time together after DD goes to bed as well, have a drink together and just hang out, sit on the back porch, etc. 

    You have to make an effort.  It's hard with a newborn, but don't become one of those couples who never has alone time away from their kids.  Just don't.  Your marriage will be better if you continue to make time for each other. 

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  • Hi,

    The bad news is that you will not have as much freedom and money as you did before.
    The good news is that your life will be absolutely filled with so much fun and good times with your child in ways you cannot imagine now.  Also, you will find time for just you and your husband...for us we do every night have alone time after we put our LO down.... and we usually get a few hours.

    Don't be afraid to start a new chapter in life.  Your DH will be there w/ you when your kids are grown and all of that too :)  It's a good thing and you will not regret it :)

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  • We have a blast together still.  We have weekly date nights, solo vacations each year and family vacations.  We enjoy our time together after DD goes to bed as well, have a drink together and just hang out, sit on the back porch, etc. 

    You have to make an effort.  It's hard with a newborn, but don't become one of those couples who never has alone time away from their kids.  Just don't.  Your marriage will be better if you continue to make time for each other. 

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  • Pepper6 said:
    pempem said:
    I did overreact. 

    I have low tolerance for unsolicited, mean-spirited comments though.

    See ya. I'll take myself to a less stuck-up site.

    If you are prone to overreactions and can't handle a unsolicited comments...then I don't recommend you have kids....
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