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CP: How much sex are you having?

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Yea, I'm going there! I read an article (can't remember where now) that said that expecting couples have sex on average once a week. I have a friend who recently gave birth that didn't have sex her entire pregnancy (by choice, not due to pelvic rest) and I have another friend who said she couldn't ever get enough. So, how much sex are you having??

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  • Maybe every other week? Ugh dh says he is ok and just wants a healthy baby at home so he is hanging in there!

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  • ksulliksulli
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    This time we've remained very regular, last time we didn't from the BFP until several months PP. At first DH was afraid since the last preg was our m/c, then life was just stressful between PgAL and prepping for a 400mi move and job changes. Then I was huge and DH wasn't interested. PP he was so scared to hurt me that he wouldn't start anything. This time since we've kept at it my belly isn't so off-putting.
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  • I'm glad you went there. I've been wondering where we stand.

    It has changed. At first, we were like high schoolers....now that there is a larger baby in there, some positions are just so uncomfortable for me (IE me on top) due to feeling all that pressure. I feel bad for DH. We've been doing a lot of oral for both, showers, and massages though. Actual sex, I'd say about 1-2 times per week is accurate for us.


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  • DH is the one who's totally freaked out by it--and he actually feels really badly about that. He constantly reassures me that it's about having our daughter "between" us while having sex, not about him finding me less attractive. I had a hard time believing that at first, but, after a couple of really honest and open conversations, I feel much better about the whole thing. (Ironically, I'm not really in the mood either--I just feel like I'm being a disappointing wife, so I've been worried about it!)

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  • eme520eme520
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    We took a break for about 10 weeks because I had severe cramping with O and was too scared to try it again. Then at about 20 weeks I had my first "full" sex dream and did not have any pain. We got back on the horse no problem.

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  • We haven't since our BFP. For 2 reasons, first I am on the lovely Crinone and the resulting "goo" grosses both MH and I out. Secondly, I feel like crap at this stage. I might barf on him.

    I feel bad about that but MH understand. I hope to get back into the swing of things after the Crinone stage. I don't want to beat myself up over it.

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  • km_mdkm_md
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    I voted SS because I don't think that any of the answers specifically apply to me. We didn't have sex successfully until I was into my third trimester. We tried a few times, but it was always painful or I was afraid that something bad would happen so it didn't work out. We've only managed to get it done about 3 times throughout this entire pregnancy though. DH has been really patient with me!
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  • I was on pelvic rest until about week 9 and after that was over, we went crazy for like.... 3 days lol. Now I'm too sick or tired to get in the mood and were only about once a week-ers.

    After my spotting scare last week, the doctor asked about the last time we had sex and I had to explain to DH after the appt why she asked that question. We had sex a few days later and when I came out of the bathroom afterwards. He asked me if I had any spotting from my cervix being irritated. LOL.

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  • 2-3 times a week is about average for us. Thankfully, DH has never had an issue with my pregnant belly and he's loving these bigger boobies as well. He's a boob guy.  :D
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  • I have been on total pelvic rest since about 16w. Before that we were about once a week, sometimes two. If I wasn't on pelvic rest now I would be all over DH. I am a hornball with no outlet!
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  • I was on pelvic rest first trimester up to 14 weeks due to partial previa that moved up. We got it on once but then back on pelvic rest at 19w due to a shortening cervix and official bed rest at 21w. My bed rest was finally lifted Monday (36w). But OB recommends waiting until 37w to have sex just in case it gets labor started. But we aren't sure how far past 37w I'll get passed. It has been so long, I'm very worried about how much it will hurt and DH doesn't want to put me into early labor but hoping we can get it in once before she comes and we have to wait again. Dh has been awesome about it all and very understanding. I couldn't do anything to get turned on and he really only cares about the sex so it has been a loooong dry spell for both of us.

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    I took my bedtime progesterone pill last night.  This may change my response above.  :/  or : D, I'm not sure how I feel about this, actually.
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  • ebugeebuge
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    I'm so glad someone brought this up. DH is really freaked about it so we haven't had sex since our BFP. In the beginning I was really sick and uninterested, but now it's DH. He says there's just something weird about it. So instead of sex he's been going out of his way to make me feel better about myself and let me know he still finds me attractive. I was starting to feel like I looked gross or something, so his reassurance has been really nice. Not going to lie, it's been really hard lately because I'm feeling good and ready to go! 
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  • We waited until I was at 11 weeks with this pregnancy, but now it's about once, sometimes twice a week. I actually have more of a drive now than I have had in quite a long time and I am really enjoying it at the moment! DH thinks I look "amazing" so I am running with it. I know I won't soon enough...so enjoying it for now. :)
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  • I think we've done it maybe 5-6 times this whole pregnancy.  During first tri I was too nervous, 2nd tri was better, and now that I'm 33 weeks, I feel too big and awkward.  I want to have sex just because I know we won't be able to for 6 weeks postpartum, and if I quit now, that's a long time.  But, that logic hasn't won me over quite yet.  

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  • I am on pelvic rest and I am going crazy!  I went on pelvic rest the day before Thanksgiving due to bleeding.  Went off two weeks later but was only off for 1 day before the NT scan where we found out about placenta previa.  We're counting down the days until my a/s scan and hoping that it's moved.  I am supposed to call to schedule the scan tomorrow.  I have an appt on the 14th with my doctor and am trying to think of a way to ask her to do an u/s and check before the a/s without sounding like I just can't live without sex :-)  We've been having some heavy make out sessions recently, which is great for H, but are leaving me very frustrated.  With my daughter, after she was born, I was totally exhausted and uninterested even after I was cleared.  I feel like my sex drive is back now and I'd really like to take advantage of it before it goes away again.

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  • We haven't since our BFP. For 2 reasons, first I am on the lovely Crinone and the resulting "goo" grosses both MH and I out. Secondly, I feel like crap at this stage. I might barf on him.

    I feel bad about that but MH understand. I hope to get back into the swing of things after the Crinone stage. I don't want to beat myself up over it.

    We didn't have sex from O through about 15 weeks due to the Crinone. DH and I were disgusted by it and I was so self-conscious. Once that was over things have been pretty normal since though! And definitely increased as my belly becomes larger. MrP is also a curves man ;)

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  • ZAngelZAngel
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    We've had sex once this entire pregnancy and that was around 14 weeks.  It was awkward and uncomfortable.  DH hasn't touched me since then.  Needless to say, that doesn't make me feel so great.  I get it.... but it still hurts my feelings.
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  • I picked SS because at first i was too nauseated to do any kind of rockin hah. Then got put on pelvic rest. Then after that was lifted we did it like 2 time a month..maybe a little more. Now the doctor said to refrain from sex since my cervix is so sensitive. However, at or around 36-37 weeks i told my hubby he gets the green light. Because we're term, if contractions happen because of it so be it.
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  • We had sex the night of our IUI and not since. I started progesterone supps 3 days later so I haven't really felt like having anything else going on down there. I can't wait til I'm off them and feel comfortable having sex again. Poor DH.
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  • I was really hoping I'd be one of those "can't get enough" pregnant women, but I have zero sex drive. In the 1st tri I also had some issues with dryness but now it's gotten more comfortable. We've been having sex about once a week since the beginning. I'm hoping at some point it'll be as much fun as it used to be.
  • Sometimes it's actual sex, sometimes just hand jobs. The actual sex is more like 2-3 a month, but increasing lately. Other "play" happens every 3-4 days.

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  • We had a dry spell at first, then DH told me he was afraid of hurting something, then we were around once a week for a few, then it just stopped once I started showing around 18 weeks or so. Not sure if it is because I am bigger and he doesn't dig it or what, but I'm not really in the mood much either. Honestly I still just feel fat so I'm not into it. :(



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  • We are getting it done a few times a week, but it isn't great sex.  I try not to O because of some pretty significant cramping.  DH is crazy horny lately, he loves the boobs and extra curves I've managed to accumulate!

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  • eme520 said:
    We took a break for about 10 weeks because I had severe cramping with O and was too scared to try it again. Then at about 20 weeks I had my first "full" sex dream and did not have any pain. We got back on the horse no problem.
    I have this, too!  I asked my OB about it and she said it was fine, but that it would be OK to refrain until second trimester.  That totally made me think it wasn't fine! 

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  • StasiStasi
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    I just found out 2 days ago while on vacation with my extended family, so I would not be having sex regardless of my BFP (we're room sharing)
                                                                            
                                                          
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  • We have not since we found out I am pregnant.  First tri, I was just so tired, with working leaving the house at 6 and not getting home until 5-7 I was exhausted.  Now I am still a little tired but just so not in the mood.  I do feel bad for DH.  

    NOt sure if he wants it either since he feels weird doing it with the baby there.  WIll have to see how this 2nd tri goes.

    Glad we are not the only ones.  LOL
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    Spotting,clot 2/15/13 all ok......2/21/13 no heartbeat 11 w 4 d missed miscarriage........2/22/13 DnC :(
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