Pregnant after a Loss

UPDATE: SO Fed up.

CaitNMattCaitNMatt member
edited December 2013 in Pregnant after a Loss

Sorry if this is a bit of AW, but I need to get this off my chest. As I had posted on Monday, I found baby on the Doppler and it was GREAT. I took video, compared to you tube videos, etc. I had found it a few times after that, but this morning I had a really hard time and not totally sure I did find it. I maybe heard it once or twice but nothing was registering on the Doppler. Anyway, I was trying to not freak out because I know this early it can be very difficult to find and you can go days without doing so.

Well, I started spotting today. Not a ton, but still... after two losses in a year, you worry, a lot. I also have been cramping for days (assuming things were stretching out) and then with the spotting, Doppler issue, etc... I freaked. I called my OB, left the voicemail because you never talk to a real person, and waited. An hour and a half they call back and tell me that:

1. It is impossible to hear a hb at 10 weeks. (lie) And that they don't even start listening until 12 weeks (also a lie)

2. My spotting is from sex. Impossible because it's been over a month. So, that's not accurate either.

3. They don't see a reason for me to come in and they said I shouldn't be worried.

So, I said "Fuck you guys" and I'm switching doctors. This is now the 2nd time that I have called for somewhat of an urgent reason and they refuse to see me and talk to me like I am 10 years old and have a paper cut on my finger.  I called my PCP, who has 4 obstetricians at their practice (it's through a hospital). I have heard good things about the doctors there and I figured I'd give it a shot and explain my situation. The girl was super nice and got me in right away today at 3pm!!

I could so use some prayers right now, or any positive vibes you can muster. I will update as soon as I get home. Hopefully with happy news. Thanks ladies for reading my OB drama!

I'm back! Well, I'm definitely glad I switched doctors for like a zillion reasons... They didn't do an extensive u/s but they had this awesome little "pocket ultrasound" that's like a Doppler with a picture!! It doesn't measure hb or give measurements of baby but it "shows you" the baby. They definitely saw a hb and him/her wiggling around. So thank God! He said he definitely thinks my dates are off but I knew that already. I set up my first real appt with them for January 2nd and I get I keep my NT scan appt for the 30th with the place my old OB scheduled it with. I'm just happy baby has a hb!! That's all I can ask for! Thank you ladies for keeping me calm and being so awesome :) I love you all!

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DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010

Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d

Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)

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Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!

 

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Re: UPDATE: SO Fed up.

  • I'm so glad you found another OB.  Cramping and spotting and no hb on Doppler and they aren't taking you seriously? That is totally unacceptable.  FX for a great u/s!  ((hugs))


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  • I would have done the same thing. I have no patience for being treated like a child by a doctor or a nurse. 

    I hope you like the new docs! 

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  • I shall be awaiting your good update. Sending calming vibes your way.

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  • Sending you tons of T&P's!  So sorry about your OB's office, what a bunch of insensitive assholes.  I'm glad you found somewhere else that could get you in right away.  ((HUGS)) Good luck!
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  • Qfrump said:

    Screw them!  People speaking down to me is the #1 way to irritate me and if it was my OB belittlingmy concerns and I would fly into a blind rage.  Shouldn't spotting be checked out regardless?  

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    Sending positive, calming vibes to you.  Looking forward to a good update!
    Thank you for this..... I needed it :)

    A little bit about me...

    Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08

    DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010

    Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d

    Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)

    BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!

     

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  • I'm glad you found another doctor to help you! 
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  • Lots of positive vibes to you!!

    Good for you in changing practices. You are paying them to do a job and need to feel confident in their care.

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  • Ugh screw them, sorry you had to deal with that. I hate when I get spoken to like a child or like I'm crazy. My office will see you if you have any spotting, it's scary!

    I'll keep my FX for a good update tonight and I hope you like the new docs :)
  • Hope all is well! I'm glad the new doctor was so quick!

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  • I really hope you're getting good news right now (or when it is this time in your time zone)!  So glad you were able to switch to another dr./practice so quickly - it definitely seemed like a change was necessary!   I hope the new Drs. and staff there will be much, much better than the old place!  
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  • FX for good news. It sucks that you had to change OBs again. I hope you will be happy with this one. 

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  • Yeah you totally need a new OB! They suck! Prayers coming your way. **hugs**


        




     

  • Yea for a good update!

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  • I'm so glad you stuck up for yourself and followed your instincts and found another doctor!  It sounds like they are going to be a great practice for you! And, yay!!!!! for a wiggly baby.

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  • I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that! I would have punched someone if they assumed my pregnancy spotting was from sex. Good for you for standing up for yourself and doing what you needed to do to take care of yourself (and baby!).
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  • What a wonderful update.  As for the old OB office....

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  • Yay for a great update!  I am so glad you found another office that takes your concerns seriously!  
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  • So happy to see this update!!!

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  • Qfrump said:

    @caitnmatt, now that you've given a great update, can I just say that your title can also be interpreted as "My Significant Other F-ed Up" ;))

    @Qfrump I know!! I honestly realized it and was thinking of changing it. Haha oh well. My DH is awesome and definitely didn't f up!

    A little bit about me...

    Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08

    DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010

    Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d

    Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)

    BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!

     

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  • Yeah for such a great update. So glad your new Dr is taking care of you the right way.

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  • Glad you are switching ob and they ate being more receptive. I cannot believe the other office did that! FX that the spotting stops...it is so scary-hugs!
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  • Wow I am glad you switched OBs, you should never feel uncomfortable or looked down on by your doctor. (((Hugs))) glad that your LO was doing great!



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  • Thanks everyone! I actually only had a few instances of "spotting" and it was only on toilet paper. I haven't had anymore, thank goodness!! Keeping my fx that that's it! Haha

    A little bit about me...

    Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08

    DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010

    Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d

    Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)

    BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!

     

     "If anyone asks me how many children I have, the answer is 4. Just two of them live in Heaven."

    *All are welcome in my posts*

     

     

     
     
  • I am glad to read your good update! Sounds like you found a MUCH better doctor.
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  • I'm so glad to read your update and am keeping my FX for more good news to come in January! Yay for what sounds like a much better OB practice and a healthy baby :)

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