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Keeping gender a surprise

Anyone else planning to do this?  I wanted to know at first, but hubby really doesn't and managed to convince me to keep it a surprise.  I really can't find out without him knowing, I will never be able to keep that secret for the next several months.  We'll be able to find out at my next u/s at the end of this month.  I have a lot of people in my life who are surprised by this decision and think I should find out in order to "prepare".  Aside from names though, what is there really to prepare for?  However, my only real concern though, is registering for clothes.  Gender neutral stuff is ok, but a lot of it still looks a little boy-ish.  If we have a boy, that's perfect.  If we have a girl though, I'm not really a pink frilly kind of person, I'm all for keeping the nursery in neutral colors, but I'd like to have a few girly things.   Things on the registry are return-able though....I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone out there is in the same boat as me.  Thoughts, pros/cons, etc? 

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  • The clothes selection for neutral stinks! I'm way to much of a planner to not have baby clothes before the baby comes. That was my only reason for not being team green. I mean it really doesn't matter but I really want to buy as much as possible before baby comes so if emergencies came up we wouldn't have to also buy clothes on top of other things.
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  • We are planning to keep it a surprise as well! My circle is truly blown away by this decision. My mom had a full tantrum about not knowing. I think this will help me to not spend so much. What influenced your husbands decision? How far long are you?

  • We are finding out so that if we have a girl we can bring her home to a girl room and if a boy a boy room. Also so that our stroller/car seat can be boy or girl oriented...I hate the idea of being asked, oh what's her name if it's a boy, this way the stroller will give it away
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  • "We are planning to keep it a surprise as well! My circle is truly blown away by this decision. My mom had a full tantrum about not knowing. I think this will help me to not spend so much. What influenced your husbands decision? How far long are you?"


    I'm 16 weeks along right now.  I think my husband has always wanted to keep it a surprise. He says there are few surprises left in life, why spoil this one?  Neither of our parents found out with us or our siblings, I guess he just likes the idea.  I'm a planner, but to be honest, it's kind of exciting and somewhat refreshing keeping it a surprise.  I guess the planner in me just struggles with the unknown sometimes. 
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    When we found out with our first two, pretty much EVERYONE in our circles thought it was odd. It is very much a 'thing' to not find out here, so it's definitely not strange. I think they mostly buy just a few neutral things and maybe one or two boy and girl things for, say, the going home outfit.
    As far as the nursery and big items (like stroller, car seat, crib) I really didn't wanna have to change the color with EACH child so I wanted neutral colors anyway even tho we knew what we were having.
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  • We aren't finding out.  Im excited to have that special moment in the delivery room with my husband and our daughter.  
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    I'm so stupid. We wanted to keep it secret since this is our last baby. MIL noticed the pink pattern on the swing on my registry and figured it out. There were no clothes or anything else girly, I just slipped up on the swing by not choosing something blue or beige lol.
    I could have lied but she would have gone and bought a ton of boy clothes!

    We are 100% keeping the name a surprise though. And believe me the family is hounding us everyday trying to get it out of us
  • Just out of curiousity, what would be the trouble with buying some pink things either way? Boys can wear pink, and it looks adorable, in my opinion! 

    My older boys have quite a few pink items and they love it. My personal issue with pink on a baby boy is that people assume and it gets very annoying.

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    We found out with my first son and then again with the second. Assuming our second was a girl (which he is not) we always said we would wait until delivery for #3 but having two boys already, I need to know if this baby is a girl so I can start shopping. I usually end up on bed rest at 20 weeks so we have to get a majority of the nursery, etc. done before that point.  

    I think it is great to not find out but I'm just not one of those people who could do that. DH's whole family didn't find out (5 brothers and 1 sister- 15 nieces and nephews) and we are the only ones who did and we got :frowned upon" about our decision. I figure it is our decision and nobody else's. 
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  • I have found registering for specific clothes to be a waste of time anyway. People want to pick out the outfits cause baby clothes are so stinkin cute. You could always tell people to go ahead and get you pink or blue with the understanding that you'll have to exchange it if they guess wrong! Or push for gift cards
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  • You really don't need to know the sex of the child to "prepare".  We were Team Green with DD2, so I speak from experience.

    Throw a few packs of gender neutral onesies on your registry.  Pick a girl name and a boy name.  Pick the baby gear you want.  Problem solved!

    In all seriousness, it didn't make things more difficult for us at all.  Tons of people bought DD clothes, but the vast majority waited until she was born (as often happens anyway) or bought adorable yellow outfits.  We chose an orange stroller and a beige car seat, both colors we would have picked regardless of gender.  We have a green nursery, and lots of bright accessories, again choices we would have made whether we'd had a boy or girl.
    And it was a tremendous thrill to have DH tell me it was a girl.
  • kd&cd said:
    We are finding out so that if we have a girl we can bring her home to a girl room and if a boy a boy room. Also so that our stroller/car seat can be boy or girl oriented...I hate the idea of being asked, oh what's her name if it's a boy, this way the stroller will give it away
    This baffles me.  

    DD2 has a pale green room, which was used by a boy before we bought this house.  Does this mean it's a boy room?  Or is it a girl room since that's who's using it?  Do the animal wall decals make it a boy room or a girl room?  Am I causing my DD permanent harm by not surrounding her in pink and purple?

    And really, who the hell cares if a total stranger asks, "What's his name?" when you have a girl, or vice versa?  Do you think anyone really cares?  Or am I doing my baby more permanent harm by not insisting on strict gender conformity at every opportunity?

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  • We were team green with our son, and are again for this baby. Gender specific equipment such as stroller, etc. is NMS, and his room was green. We received endless clothes after he arrived, and I arrived at the hospital with a boy and girl coming home outfit. Like you, I'm drawn to the pinkf frilly girl stuff, and others know that about me, so if it's a girl, that's likely what they'll buy. Also, as someone else mentioned, learning the gender of your baby at the moment of birth can be the most memorable surprise of your life. There are no words to describe what it added to my birth experience, and I'm so excited for our next surprise!
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  • We found out with DD and we did not find out with this LO. We really want to experience the excitement of finding out the day he/she is born.

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  • I was asked "what's his name?" while dd was wearing a pink shirt, overalls, a hair bow and earrings. Some people are just dense. Don't let it bother you.
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  • For our first, I feel like there is so much unknown that I needed something that I could know, and prepare for.  Preparing really only for her room and stuff like that.  But now that I'm thinking longer term, I don't want to get everything pink b/c what if the next one is a boy?  So, clothes, bedding are pinks and purples; but high chair, P&P, swing, stroller - all neutral.  As much as I love the purple Chicco stroller, I didn't think its the most practical purchase so I'm sticking with the khaki one.  I hate my practical nature!  I might as well have just stayed team green!  But - now that I can refer to her as HER, it makes it feel a little more real.  That and the continuous kicks in the ribs. 
  • We are not finding out either, and registered for only a few clothing items that can be for either a boy or girl, but in small (mostly 0-3 mo) sizes.  The other larger stuff (car seat, highchair, etc.) was also gender neutral.  We did this for 2 reasons - first, I really want that moment in the delivery room where DH can announce it, and also so it will work if we are lucky enough to have more children!

    On a side note, pretty much everyone thinks we're crazy for not finding out.  We have actually even been called 'dumb' and 'unprepared' for our decision.  But U/S is done, so no turning back now!  (Not that I would)
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  • I personally never registered for clothes despite knowing what we were having. There are plenty of other things to put on it and trying to find a specific outfit/size on a registry is a pita. Onesies are different, IMO, and I prefer white ones to go under stuff anyway. I feel the same about neutral clothes. What I did for my surprise was hit up kohls before I had him and picked both girl and boy stuff. My mil brought his take home outfit in once we had him so she could pull tags off/wash it. I returned any girl stuff I to. Their return policy is great. Not finding out was so much fun.
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  • All of my big items for DS were neutral, because I knew I wanted another baby. I have found out sex with both pregnancies because I REALLY wanted a girl and knew I needed some time to adjust to the idea of having a boy (obviously, the first is a boy - looks like this one is a girl! Yay! I'm super excited to have one of each!), but my sister truly didn't care, and didn't find out with any of hers. One thing you could consider is buying gender neutral on the big items and basic newborn size clothes, and then have an "after baby" shower.
  • We found out the sex only so we would know for our own knowledge. We knew we were having a boy but everything is gender neutral - swing, bouncy seat, high chair, car seat, stroller, nursery, etc. The only way anyone knew we were having a boy was the clothes in the closet. Which works out nicely since baby #2 is on the way and we can use the stuff if it's a girl.

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  • We've found out the gender, but aren't sharing it with anyone else.  I know that I want another baby so I wanted gender neutral items that could be used again.  I've had my shower and all the items are gender neutral.  There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears.

  • I am in your exact situation.  I wanted to know and hubby didn't.  He said the same as your hubby about there being so few surprises in life.  I knew I couldn't know without him knowing so we are team green. I have gotten a lot of pressure from friends and family wanting to know.  We do have an envelope from the a/s that says what baby is.  I just wanted to have it so I felt like I still had the power to know.  It was on the fridge for a while and now I have it tucked in a drawer (out of sight out of mind.....sort of)   :)  I am now happy we are team green.  I think it will add to the excitement.

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  • Thanks everyone, hearing all of your experiences has been hugely helpful!  I'm starting to get excited about keeping it a surprise :-)
  • RebeccaY1 said:

    We've found out the gender, but aren't sharing it with anyone else.  I know that I want another baby so I wanted gender neutral items that could be used again.  I've had my shower and all the items are gender neutral.  There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears.

    Ew. Keeping the sex a secret from everyone to manipulate what shower gifts you get is just plain disgusting.
    Lots of people prefer to buy gender neutral items for this very reason. Not seeing the "eww" factor. What a strange reaction

    I think it's this line:
    "There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears."

    It makes it sound like this poster is expecting blue/pink ASAP after the baby is born. That can raise eyebrows. I'm a little confused (but I'm sleep deprived) @bliss+berry , can you explain?


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  • RebeccaY1 said:

    We've found out the gender, but aren't sharing it with anyone else.  I know that I want another baby so I wanted gender neutral items that could be used again.  I've had my shower and all the items are gender neutral.  There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears.

    Ew. Keeping the sex a secret from everyone to manipulate what shower gifts you get is just plain disgusting.
    Lots of people prefer to buy gender neutral items for this very reason. Not seeing the "eww" factor. What a strange reaction

    I think it's this line:
    "There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears."

    It makes it sound like this poster is expecting blue/pink ASAP after the baby is born. That can raise eyebrows. I'm a little confused (but I'm sleep deprived) @bliss+berry , can you explain?
    It's one thing to be team green because you want the surprise.
    I think knowing the sex but not telling anyone for the sole purpose of getting certain types of gifts is manipulative and tacky. If you want gender neutral items, by all means register for them or purchase them yourself.
    She said she registered for them
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  • We're not finding out and I love the excitement! I think it's going to make delivery day even more special than it will already be! I've bought some neutral clothing to get me by for a first couple weeks and I can go shopping then :).. I'm sure people will buy me clothes for my shower but I have no problem putting my little girl in a blue outfit and matching it with a bow :)
    Alot of ppl don't understand why you wouldn't want to find out (at least in my experience).. I get called crazy and stupid for not finding out but ultimately, it's your baby! Do what works for you and your SO. :)
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  • FemShep said:
    kd&cd said:
    We are finding out so that if we have a girl we can bring her home to a girl room and if a boy a boy room. Also so that our stroller/car seat can be boy or girl oriented...I hate the idea of being asked, oh what's her name if it's a boy, this way the stroller will give it away
    This baffles me.  

    DD2 has a pale green room, which was used by a boy before we bought this house.  Does this mean it's a boy room?  Or is it a girl room since that's who's using it?  Do the animal wall decals make it a boy room or a girl room?  Am I causing my DD permanent harm by not surrounding her in pink and purple?

    And really, who the hell cares if a total stranger asks, "What's his name?" when you have a girl, or vice versa?  Do you think anyone really cares?  Or am I doing my baby more permanent harm by not insisting on strict gender conformity at every opportunity?

    smh

    This. Also, this only makes sense if you're only having one kid. If you get a pink car seat, then have a boy, do you get another stroller and car seat? Or does it not matter for #2?
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  • It's still a surprise when you find out at the 20w U/S
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  • We found out for one reason only... Dh kept calling him an "it" and it irked me... So now he calls him he lol
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  • I am 37 weeks pregnant and we did not find out...and I love seeing people's reactions when I say we don't know the gender of our baby! We registered for all neutral things so that it can be used for any future children, regardless of their gender. My mom did, in the beginning, give me some crap because she said that it was hard to find clothes, so I just told her to buy something off the registry. People will still try to buy gender neutral clothes and you can keep them or return them. Or a friend told me that if you get gender specific clothes, keep them and gift them to the next person who has a baby!


  • We've found out the gender, but aren't sharing it with anyone else.  I know that I want another baby so I wanted gender neutral items that could be used again.  I've had my shower and all the items are gender neutral.  There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears.
    Ew. Keeping the sex a secret from everyone to manipulate what shower gifts you get is just plain disgusting.
    Lots of people prefer to buy gender neutral items for this very reason. Not seeing the "eww" factor. What a strange reaction
    I think it's this line: "There will be plenty of time to purchase pink or blue items soon enough.  I can guarantee that both sets of grandparents will get pink or blue items the minute that baby appears." It makes it sound like this poster is expecting blue/pink ASAP after the baby is born. That can raise eyebrows. I'm a little confused (but I'm sleep deprived) @bliss+berry , can you explain?
    It's one thing to be team green because you want the surprise. I think knowing the sex but not telling anyone for the sole purpose of getting certain types of gifts is manipulative and tacky. If you want gender neutral items, by all means register for them or purchase them yourself.
    I did register for gender neutral items, but I didn't put any clothing on the registry since I've purchased a lot of it myself.  

    In terms of saying there is plenty of time to buy pink or blue later that is technically very true.  There will be a whole lifetime of the child being a girl or boy and people will inevitably purchase gender specific items later on.  I don't see what the big deal is about thinking grandparents will make pink or blue purchases since this is very typical in my social circle.  What crappy grandparents out there don't buy their grandchildren birthday presents, Christmas presents, baptism presents, Easter presents, and just because presents?  All of those gifts could theoretically be pink or blue.

    I also intend to get pregnant again and would like to be able to use the items again.  That is also very typical of my social circle.  I don't want a boy in a pink stroller, or a girl in a blue one.  I prefer both to use green and brown.

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  • We found out with my two previous pregnancies and plan to find out this time as well. DH and I were never patient enough to wait the full 40 (or in my case, 41) weeks to find out. This time, I really want to find out. If it's a boy, it will be so much fun to shop for boy clothes and decorate a boy's nursery for a change. If it's a girl, it will be good to know that we're fully stocked in terms of, well, everything.
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  • As soon as people find out you had a girl (if you do)...you will be showered with girly things.  I was team green with DD and bought 2 girl outfits and 2 boy outfits, then had my mom wash the girl stuff and bring it to the hospital once she was born.  It worked out well!  Of course we recevied tons of girly things as gifts, and as soon as I was ready I was out shopping!  LOL.  Or online shopping.  :)

     

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  • RebeccaY1 said:

    In terms of saying there is plenty of time to buy pink or blue later that is technically very true.  There will be a whole lifetime of the child being a girl or boy and people will inevitably purchase gender specific items later on.  I don't see what the big deal is about thinking grandparents will make pink or blue purchases since this is very typical in my social circle.  What crappy grandparents out there don't buy their grandchildren birthday presents, Christmas presents, baptism presents, Easter presents, and just because presents?  All of those gifts could theoretically be pink or blue.



    Wait, is this real life?  Are you seriously insinuating that NOT buying presents at every single holiday makes someone a "crappy" grandparent? 

    Some people can't afford to buy gifts constantly, that doesn't mean they love the child any less... Wow, I still can't believe I just read that.

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  • I originally planned to not find out (I love the surprise of it all) but started stressing (don't know why). My boyfriend was so intently watching the monitor I caved in and found out. We did a small gender reveal at my parents Christmas Eve b/c my mom had already started planning girl clothes - ummm NO!!
    My major concern was getting a bunch of clothes at the shower. We have lots of practical stuff we'll need so I'm hoping that will override the desire of friends and family to play dress up with my little one.
    I'm still planning very neutral decor - including car seat, toys, clothes, etc. It's just something about the browns, blues, greens and yellows that I adore!!
    Wish you well!
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    I have to agree. The "What crappy grandparents" really really rubbed me wrong way.


    This bothered me too. I was actually thinking about this while watching my 1 year old nephew open Christmas presents last night. I'd rather my parents buy my child one small gift for his/her birthday or Christmas if they insist, and take whatever else they planned to spend and put it in a savings/529 account for them. This is what I have chosen to do for my nephew and I'll do the same when my niece arrives in April. 

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  • Yay!! Go for it girl!!! Be team green!! We are also expecting our 1st little miracle in June and we are team green! I think its going to be an amazing experience to be able to be surprised! Like my mother says "Well after all that hard labor it is an amazing surprise to see what you're baby is!" As for clothes for both girl or boy I have a few outfits of each that will last till I feel up to shopping! We also plan to have a baby shower after the baby is here so not only are they able to come to the shower but they can also meet the little pumpkin!! Good luck and blessings to you!
  • My hubby recently decided that he wanted the gender to be a surprise.  I absolutely don't.  So I convinced him to comprise.  Instead of waiting all the way till push day (yes, lol, that's what I'm calling it), we are going to have a gender reveal baby shower.  Our ultrasound is this Thursday, and assuming baby cooperates and lets the tech see the gender, we're going to have them NOT tell us, but instead write it down and seal it in an envelope.  I am then going to (without peeking) hand the envelope over to my friend who is hosting the baby shower.  Key guests will be told ahead of time what the gender is, but me and hubby won't find out till the day of the baby shower.  So I have to wait a bit longer, but not all the way till the end!  Hubby went for the idea because he thought it would be fun and we could share our moment of surprise with our daughter (she's 3 and won't be in the delivery room) and friends.
  • We decided not to find out the gender of our baby for a few reasons:
    1) We love surprises! and either way, this is a good surprise.
    2) We plan to have more kids so it's only smart to buy gender neutral gear, furniture, etc.
    3) It makes the day the baby is born just a little more exciting because everyone is so anxious to know if it's a boy or a girl.

    We only bought small clothes in gender neutral colours (white, blue, yellow, green), because we can go buy larger outfits in gender specific colours after the baby is born.

  • we found out with DD1 and got the opposite reaction - most of my family & friends had stayed team green and were shocked we found out! They were almost...disappointed? for us for "ruining the best surprise life has to offer" or some bs. Um, we were still surprised, just at 20 weeks instead of 40. :) This time I don't want to find out, but DH does...we shall see!
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  • We are keeping it a surprise! I did NOT want to do this -- I am far too impatient.. But I buckled and we are waiitng... i have to say, the closer it gets to the due date, the more happy I am that we waited!! I am so excited to meet him/her that I can hardly stand it. Whatever you decide, good for you -- it is going to be exciting to matter what!!
  • Oh ya, as far as neutral clothing. We just bought a few outfits in each gender and are keeping receipts. It certainly makes it more tricky, but my hubs had a good point that we are saving a ton by not buying a ton of stuff before the baby comes. Also, we were told that we will get a ton of outfits and stuff from people so it's not that big of a deal. Hope this helped :)
  • We found out the gender but kept it as a surprise. It made it fun for hubby and I as we had our own little secret :)
  • stroller colors or not, they'll still ask you if you have a boy or girl.
    My son wears blues and reds and they still ask me if I have a boy or girl and he definitely looks like a big boy. He's 3 months.
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    I had to find out with my baby because I don't plan on having any more children even though Gunner wasn't a planned pregnancy he wasn't unwelcome either. I see him as my miracle baby.
    High five to all the single mothers out there raising your babies.
    We don't need their fathers to be a family unit if it's their choice to continue to be boys and run around making a fool of themselves.

    If I planned on wanting more children after Gunner, I probably wouldn't have asked to know what the sex of my baby was. =)
  • Hubby and I decided to keep it a surprise and people are very surprised!  It seems like everyone finds out these days as soon as possible.  I definitely understand the benefits to finding out early, so you can plan -- but for me those benefits didn't outweigh my desire to wait.  Yes, some things will be a little harder (we have to pick 2 names out, we won't put a lot of clothes on our registry, we have to find gender neutral bedding -- which is surprisingly harder than I'd assumed) but overall I think it will make the birth that much more special to hear "It's a ......!".  I also (perhaps naively) have told myself that pondering over the gender during labor *might* help distract me from the pain of it all.  ;)  It's a personal decision really -- do what feels right for YOU!
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    I like Rebecca's post in parts but respect her opinion. We are team green and want to control the pink or blue snow ball effect off baby stuff before baby arrives. I too have my reasons for nuetral baby gifts in hope for things that are pratical rather than wasteful and don't end up as donations, Goodwill, or on Ebay. In reality, some people don't know how to shop for baby gifts. I have friends who are first time moms who end up with gifts that are never put in use nor their taste. I added the basic stuff to my registry for those who wish to give us a gift. But we bought and buying expensive items on our own that WE like and need.
  • My mom has always said there are so few naturally surprises in life, why ruin one.  My Fiancé and I are not finding out what we are having and people think that we are crazy too.  I have just always known that this is something I want to be surprised about! 
  • I don't get the whole "lets not tell anyone until its born" thing. No one cares what genitals your kid has THAT much. It's not like people are holding their breath for you to tell them what the sex of the baby is.

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  • I just want to say I envy those of you keeping it a secret.. this is my last baby, my fourth, and I have two boys and a girl. I know no matter if I find out or not, what I'm having is what I'm having, but I want to find out because I just have such a hard time not knowing for some reason. I wish I had it in me to just not want to know/want to leave it a surprise. But I get excited for any friends or family that end up doing the surprise thing, because I love the idea of it. It's a beautiful thing. Newborns wear mostly gender neutral stuff anyway, at least mine have.
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  • I found out my first baby was a boy just because I'm a sonographer and happened to see between his legs. My husband didn't want to know so i kept it secret! I just hid any clothing i bought and pretended to look at girls names as well. This second time round he says again he doesn't want to know but I think I do.
  • I'm way too impatient to not find out. But I do want the experience of being surprised in the delivery room so we are thinking if we get one of each on our first two tries then we will let the third one be a surprise. This is our first and we are finding out next week. Trying to keep my mind off of it because I am SO ANXIOUS!!!
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  • Team Green last pregnancy.  Doing it again this time.  

    We bought bigger items in gender neutral colors.  We knew we were going to have more than one.  It seemed like the practical thing to do.  As far as the nursery, I picked out an option for a boy and one for a girl.  When DD was born, I went online and ordered what we needed.  We had painted the room a neutral color and had furniture.  It only took a couple of weeks and on our doorstep we had everything else we needed...linens, wall decor, etc.  DD came home in a plain white outfit.  This baby will come home in the same outfit.  We have gender neutral clothes that will last this baby at least a few months.  

    We went Team Green because I'm insanely hard to surprise.  I'm almost obnoxious about it.  This was the one time in my life when I really, truly wanted to have something unknown.  Practically, it worked out great.  Emotionally, it was the best thing ever.  My delivery experience turned into such a wonderful 'present' opening.  I knew I had a daughter for the very first time when I actually laid eyes on her.

    For me, that is why I think Team Green is awesome.  It's not for everyone though.  
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  • I'm having a girl and her car seat, stroller, pack n' play and high chair are blue plaid. Why? Because I like the color blue and she's not going to know that I got her "boy" things. 

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    I wanted to keep it a suprise and not find out, until we walked into a couple of baby stores and realized there aren't a lot of options in terms of neutral clothes! It sucks :( and then my husband tells me that he wanted to find out all along.. there's no way he's going to find out and I'm going to wait until delivery date! It would kill me to know he knows and I don't!  Plus the planner in me wants to get everything ready for our little boy or girl... but there's so little surprises left in life... so I'm just confused right now! 

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  • We're not finding out and it is driving H CRAZY. He says he needs to "prepare". I tell him "prepare for what? It's a baby either way.  It wears pajamas for the first 6 months".

    I think it will be fun picking out 2 names and the nursery colors we love are neutral anyway.

    I justify my stubbornness because I have to go through pregnancy+L+D+postpartum.  I win.

    ps- I had CVS so I could find out the sex now- it's in my medical record.  But I WILL RESIST!!!

     

     

     

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