I apologize if this has been discussed recently, but I've been MIA and couldn't find anything. DH grew up in a "spanking" family and I did not. We agreed that we wouldn't spank for now at least. Lately DH has been complaining that DS isn't reacting to us saying "no" to things and he doesn't think that saying "no" and removing DS from the situation is effective. My thoughts are that no 13-month olds are really respecting "no" at this point, but I was hoping to get input from others. He hasn't come right out and said that he thinks we should start spanking DS, but I feel like it's on his mind since he keeps bringing it up.
Is your kid listening to you? What do you do when LO does something they aren't supposed to? Right now W literally walks around touches everything that he's not supposed to and says "no no no".
Re: Saying "no"
We try to distract him or redirect him when he's doing or touching something he shouldn't. If he keeps going bavk to it, then we tell him no in a stern voice.
At this age the most you can do is say no and redirect them over an over to convey the message which still may not get through.
DH and I both came from spanking families and don't really plan to spank. I have shown DS who is 4.5 the wooden spoon and said ill use it on his bottom if he's naughty (we don't say bad) and that is enough for him to straighten out but we started that at about 4 and we only "threaten" it. Others use time out when they get older but he never cared about that so I just say I'll get the spoon and he shapes up fast.
Do not spank at this age. They don't know what's going on.
No is a funny game to Leo. I try to use affirmative words if possible, like gentle touches instead of no hitting. I also try to save the stern No for something dangerous. We started timeouts with DS1 around 20 months because I wanted to get that established before DS2 was born. It took a couple of months for him to understand timeouts. In the beginning I sat in timeout with him. I explained why he was in timeout, then we sat quietly for a minute. After the minute, we talked about better options for him to make better decisions. We use the same spot for all timeouts.
It is too early for our babies to get timeouts but I think it would benefit you to start reading about methods of discipline to find something that works for you and your child.
I'm glad your husband at least agrees to not spank at this time.
These kids are going to continually test boundaries & probably not listen more often than listen. We can't lose our cool at every little thing. They are a true test of patience!
We actually have a similar setup with very few off limit items. The 2 big "no" items are cords and outlets, which we have in most rooms, although the outlets have plugs on them. He will touch one outlet and say "no", then move to the computer cord and say "no", then another outlet, then the blinds cords, etc.
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