January 2014 Moms

Woman writes Halloween letter to parents of fat kids - seriously

This woman has decided it's her job to patrol what parents are giving their kids and is giving overweight kids a letter to their parents instead of candy this Halloween.  I'll let you read the story, which includes the letter she plans to hand out.

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-halloween-fat-letter-20131030,0,7318211.story

Personally, I think that even though she might truly think she's being helpful and has good intentions overall, it's none of her damn business what other parents give their kids or don't give their kids.  For all she knows, the parents have their own rules for eating Halloween candy.  If she feels that strongly about it, how about giving out something healthy instead?  And don't target specific kids - they probably all should be eating less sugar overall, not just the overweight ones.  What do you all think?

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Re: Woman writes Halloween letter to parents of fat kids - seriously

  • Heard about this on the radio this morning.. I agree with you. Hand out apples if you're worried. It's not your job to patrol other people's kids! 
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  • I saw this on the news. Ridiculous! Let kids enjoy the day! What does she expect ppl to do stand on their porch and be like of your skinny, here is a candy bar for you. Oh wait and you are chubby, keep on walking! That's horrible. Let kids be kids.
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  • There is no need for such a note...that is absolutely horrible.  Try giving our raisins or something if you don't want to give out candy but FFS don't hand a kid a note instead of a treat just so they and their parents can be informed that someone thinks they are obese.  

    What does she do if  a group of kids comes to her door and there is only one "moderately obese" child in the mix?  Everyone gets candy except that kid?
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  • What a bitch

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  • Or, just close the door, turn off the light, and watch an exercise video.
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  • Yeah that is total BS. If you're going to be the person that wants to be healthy, do it with all of the kids and give out something healthy or like PP's said, stickers or something. Fat shaming children is not the way to make a point. She has no idea what could possibly be going on with those kids..half of the kids I've taken care of with cancer look perfectly normal and healthy but are chubby at certain points of treatment because of the steroids they're on....if my kid had cancer and came home with a "fat kid" note from that lady she and I would be having words. There is absolutely no reason to do that to children. 

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  • I think like other posters have mentioned that it's wrong to 'reward' some kids who are within a normal body weight and embarass, single out or 'punish' those who are overweight. Seriously, lady. I am all about preventing childhood obesity, but not on Halloween for 1 night of fun. Give out fun halloween stickers or balls of popcorn or apples instead of nasty-grams. If someone did that to my child, I would be furious.

  • I'd want to punch her in the face if she handed my child a note like that. Seriously? She's not helping; she's just being a spiteful hag who thinks it's a good idea to use a fun holiday to essentially bully kids into losing weight. It's none of her business, and who is she to judge what is too big or too small? This pissed me off.
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  • If she were in our neighborhood, she would have to move. There would be an angry mob at her door!

    1) Like PPs have said, you don't target specific kids. That's just cruel and makes you a bully. If you're concerned, hand out healthy snacks.

    2) How cowardly of her to make this an anonymous note. If you are going to have the balls to tell parents that their kid is fat, you should have the balls to stand behind those words.

    3) If a stranger ever told me that I needed to "step up" as a parent, the wrath they would incur would be more terrifying than anything you see in Halloween.
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  • What a bitch. And it's none of her business. It is ONE day when kids get to go a little sugar crazy and have fun! Don't make some child feel bad about themselves. They have parents to teach them healthy eating habits. I hope no one shows up at her house
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    nikkijd17 said:

    While I appreciate the whole "it takes a village" concept, this lady unilaterally determining which child should get a shaming fat letter makes her the village idiot.  Don't participate.  Or hand out pencils or stickers.  Being a positive influence, as opposed to making children who are already often ostracized feel worse about themselves, would seem like the route to take.

    I want to tar and feather her house with caramel and coconut.

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  • She needs to get a life.  Does she really think she is accomplishing anything besides showing the world she is a miserable wench?

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  • I think someone already mentioned handing out apples or raisins. Why not just do that? Why fat shame? Furthermore, by handing out healthy items to all the kids, she is helping to install healthy eating habits. 
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  • nikkijd17 said:

    While I appreciate the whole "it takes a village" concept, this lady unilaterally determining which child should get a shaming fat letter makes her the village idiot.  Don't participate.  Or hand out pencils or stickers.  Being a positive influence, as opposed to making children who are already often ostracized feel worse about themselves, would seem like the route to take.

    I want to tar and feather her house with caramel and coconut.

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    @nikkijd17 YES! ALL OF THAT RIGHT THERE! ^ You bring the caramel, I'll bring the coconut!
    Sounds good!  Mmmmm..... now I'm thinking about caramel and coconut.  Bring extra - we'll need some to keep my energy up.  Maybe she can write me a pregnancy shaming letter about how the sweets aren't good for the baby.
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  • I remember having at least 2 friends in elementary school go on medications that caused considerable weight gain. They both had to stay on these medications for a couple of years and didn't end up losing the weight until middle or high school even. I understand there's a problem with childhood obesity but this woman thinking she can just look at a kid and assume something with no background is complete BS. If I had been trick-or-treating with those friends and someone did that to us, I'd have shown her what the five fingers said to the face!

    Just turn off your porch light and don't participate. Geez.
    Thanks for nothing, TB. 
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  • nikkijd17 said:
    nikkijd17 said:

    While I appreciate the whole "it takes a village" concept, this lady unilaterally determining which child should get a shaming fat letter makes her the village idiot.  Don't participate.  Or hand out pencils or stickers.  Being a positive influence, as opposed to making children who are already often ostracized feel worse about themselves, would seem like the route to take.

    I want to tar and feather her house with caramel and coconut.

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    @nikkijd17 YES! ALL OF THAT RIGHT THERE! ^ You bring the caramel, I'll bring the coconut!
    Sounds good!  Mmmmm..... now I'm thinking about caramel and coconut.  Bring extra - we'll need some to keep my energy up.  Maybe she can write me a pregnancy shaming letter about how the sweets aren't good for the baby.
    This just made me let out a little snort at my desk at work, lol. 
  • I just heard about this at Lunch!!  I think this woman is disgusting!!! If you don't want to participate, turn off your lights, don't be home, whatever!! But there's no need to hand out these horrible letters!!!  It makes me wonder what she looks like!  Besides, I'm all for healthy habits etc. but this is Halloween, let the kids have some fun!  Will she be delivering these types of letters to everyone's door at Christmas too?  I guess Santa at the mall shouldn't be handing out Candy Canes either then.

    What is this world coming to?!?!?!

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  • I think this woman is going to get the rath of several angry parents....sadly not only is she going to get egged and TP'ed A LOT!!!  She is going to get irate parents at her front door step looking for a fight.  I am just hoping no one gets seriously hurt tomorrow.  Who does this woman think she is anyways?  I really hope in the end she decides to just turn her light off and leave the poor kids alone...this is going to get really ugly for her.
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  • nikkijd17 said:

    While I appreciate the whole "it takes a village" concept, this lady unilaterally determining which child should get a shaming fat letter makes her the village idiot.  Don't participate.  Or hand out pencils or stickers.  Being a positive influence, as opposed to making children who are already often ostracized feel worse about themselves, would seem like the route to take.

    I want to tar and feather her house with caramel and coconut.

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    While that would be a great use of coconut, it's a waste of perfectly good caramel ;)
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  • That's horrible. I went through an awkward stage as a preteen and was a bit chubby. I knew I was chubbier than some of my friends and didn't feel good about that fact, and comments I got (although they were fairly mild and rare) still stick in the back of my mind to this day. If a lady had given me a letter like this I would have been devastated and so embarrassed. And you know any kid who can read will most likely read this letter before their parents have a chance to take it out of their candy bags, I know I would have. Fat shaming kids is not the way to instill healthy habits in them - it's the way to give kids complexes or eating disorders. I would be livid if my child came home with this.
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  • I saw this reply letter come across my Facebook feed today.

    http://www.peopleiwanttopunchinthethroat.com/2013/10/the-lady-who-says-no-candy-for-you-fatso.html

    I particularly like one of the comments where a woman said  "...there's a dentist around our parts who buys back candy ($1 per pound-5 lbs max) and sends it to the troops."

    THAT is a way of contributing to the community in the spirit of childrens' well being. NOT telling a child they are fat!

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  • If my kid got this letter, I would be egging her house. And I'd take my daughter home, go back to her house, and tear her a new one.

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  • Wow.... just wow. I wish I could say it surprised me that someone would do something like this. But it doesn't :( I really hope this woman pulls her head out of her rear end and does NOT hand out that horrible note to a child. Hand out apples, pencils, or just turn off your light. It's not that hard to NOT be a disgusting human being.


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  • elisawiestelisawiest member
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  • What upsets me, along with what everybody else has already mentioned, is that this woman is perceiving skinny as healthy. I'm skinny, I always have been. My mom is 5'5", 110 lbs soaking wet. She simply always has been as well. Is she healthy? No. She eats like a kid. Junk food, snacks, hot dogs, etc. Last night her and her bf were light-heartedly complaining because "everything you cook is so healthy!" She's never been a healthy eater. My husband is the same way. Aside from what I would make him, he eats like absolute crap. However, I know plenty of people who are on the heavier side or who are overweight but who are much more physically fit and have healthier diets than many skinny people.

    This woman is ridiculous, and this is wrong on so many levels. Some kids are "blessed" with skinny genes while others try to maintain a healthy weight and struggle. 
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  • oh man, i might actually turn on the news friday morning to see the aftermath of this...
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