My ex-dh and I have 50/50 joint and physical custody. This worked out in the beginning but due to his crazy gf, things have been strained. I am the one who makes the doctors appts, dentist appts, arranges daycare where there is none etc.
Tomorrow was my son was supposed to go to backup daycare. You have to make reservations for this a month in advance. I told ex-DH two weeks ago about this and that my mom would be picking our son up (she took off work early to do so) and that he would be spending the night there since there is no daycare on Thursday either. He never said anything about changing it when I told him. I reminded him today via the phone that there was no daycare the rest of the week and that tomorrow is backup care, Thursday he is at my moms and Friday I took off to watch my son. He said ok. tonight at 7pm I get a phone call saying "LO isn't going to backup daycare, he is going to my gf's mom's house" I said "I had everything arranged already and my mom took off work to get him early, take him to get his hair cut and pictures taken" He was like "well I don't care, my gf's mom house is free and more convenient for me". He then mocked me when I sighed into the phone because I am literally at a loss for words in this stuff he keeps trying to pull. He then texts my mom and tells her he will bring LO later tomorrow evening. My mom texts him back and said "I took work off early and LO has an appt for hair and pictures so can you please drop him off to me at 2:30". Ex-DH calls her and says that he can. This man can NEVER get off work early to help with anything so this really surprises me considering he has to drive a half hour to gf's moms house to get LO and then a half hour back into town. Is he just trying to stick it to me to prove he can make decisions too?
I am sick of his lack of priorities, pawning LO off to go drink with gf etc. He wants to be a parent when its convenient for him. As I said before, it wasn't always this way but it gets worse and worse over the last year.
I would like to pursue sole physical and sole legal custody so he can't call at 7pm at night and change plans that LO has known about as well as everyone else. This stuff happens ALL. THE. TIME. If you look at how our situation is, I am the "primary" parent for our LO but I want it in a CO that I am the sole legal etc.
Is this hard to do? Any insight anyone has would be great and appreciated. This isn't about trying to punch my ex-dh, its about stability for my son. I am sick of seeing him pawned off when we (his stepdad and I) don't have him. There is also the issues such as ex-dh's gf not putting our son in a car seat but instead a booster seat (which I posted about earlier today) as well as him not making LO wear a lifejacket two weeks ago the entire time they were boating. My son told me he didn't' have to wear his life jacket with daddy when the boat was going slow. My son is almost four and offers these details almost in a bragging way like "I get away with stuff at dad's house".